Influence Tools
Influence TOOLKIT
This area helps us understand how we assert ourselves and deal with power in relationships.
Anger, desire, and fear are emotions that play a central role in our relationship to power and influence. These emotions are challenging to navigate, and when not handled well, they can be destructive, leading to many interpersonal relationship problems.
These tools help you work on your relationship to power and influence, and the specific emotions of anger, desire, and fear. Relating to these emotions skillfully helps you have real influence with others that facilitates connection and does not cause harm.
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.”
INFLUENCE EXERCISES
EXERCISE 1
How you view anger as an emotion plays a huge role in whether you can use this emotion and its energy positively in your life. This exercise helps you update your view of anger.
EXERCISE 2
This exercise will help you look more deeply at your need for control and what you can learn from it to have influence in a way that builds connection.
EXERCISE 3
This exercise walks you through the basics of giving feeling-based feedback to help you do it in way that builds relationships instead of hurting them.